The Associates of Holy Cross is a group of more than 1,000 persons — men and women, clergy and lay, of many different Christian denominations — who are associated with the Order of the Holy Cross. Membership in the Associates involves both the observance of a rule of life and a relationship with our community.
The Rule for Associates sets out a pattern of spiritual observance that is both full and flexible. It is clear that the Rule is not intended to be a rigid set of prescriptions, but a guideline to the living of the spiritual life. Associates are required to develop their own personal expression of the Rule, incorporating monastic principles, values, and disciplines that fit their own life situation as described in the Rule. Adaptations and adjustments in the living of the Rule are normal as the circumstances of our lives change, but in making these adjustments, the pattern of balance that is characteristic of Benedictine spirituality is regarded as primary. Nevertheless, it remains true that the Rule does require a sizable commitment of time and energy, and you need to consider this.
Your relationship to our community also needs to be considered. The Order of the Holy Cross lives the Benedictine life in a particular way, as is true of each different Benedictine congregation or community. You need to have at least enough familiarity with our life and spirit to know why you want to be associated with us rather than with some other community. People who live within easy traveling distance of one of our monasteries and have never visited us should plan a visit, preferably of two or three days, to become acquainted with our life and with the brothers. If you live farther away from one of our houses this will obviously need to be modified, but you should at least know something of what Holy Cross is like, and you should plan to visit one of our houses when your personal circumstances permit. All Associates are expected to make some financial commitment to the Order.
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Introduction
The Order of the Holy Cross is an Episcopal/Anglican monastic community for men founded in the Lower East Side of New York City in 1884 by the Rev. James Otis Sargent Huntington. Like most Anglican religious communities founded in the 19th century, the Order sought to achieve a "mixed" life of active work in Church and society combined with and rooted in individual and corporate prayer and monastic discipline. As the first American community for men, the Order also stressed a degree of individuality and personal initiative which was unusual for its time. Over the next years, the community moved several times, finally settling in West Park, New York, from which houses and works of the Order were established in the United States, Africa, the Caribbean and Canada. In its centennial year, 1984, the Order formally adopted the Rule of St. Benedict to stand with the Rule of Father Huntington as one of the foundational documents of the Order. This move resulted, in part, from increased ecumenical contacts with other religious communities, affirming the essentially Benedictine character of Holy Cross. The adoption of the Rule of Benedict recognized and openly embraced this identity and led the Order to closer relationships with the international Benedictine family. As is true of all Benedictine communities, however, Holy Cross lives the Benedictine Life in a particular way, one which reflects the unique origins and history of this household of God.
St. Benedict
St. Benedict (480 - 547 AD), the Father of Western monasticism, lived at a time of tremendous social upheaval and cultural change. Wanting to insure a way of life which was both stable and flexible, he wrote his Rule for monasteries. Borrowing heavily from previous monastic sources, he crafted a Rule which was distinguished by a high degree of balance and sanity. Benedict himself says that in drawing up his rule, he hoped "to set down nothing harsh, nothing burdensome." Rather, outlining a day divided between prayer, work, study and sleep, and in tune with the seasons, both ecclesiastical and natural, he hoped to provide a model of Christian living. Like the good abbot, Benedict desired to: "so arrange everything that the strong have something to strive for and the weak nothing to run from." (RB 64:19) It was the eminent practicality and good sense of this Rule which lead to its ultimately being adopted as the normative guide to Western monastic life.
Confraternity of the Christian Life and Associates
As early as 1887, the fledgling Order of the Holy Cross instituted its first associate group comprised of laity who were involved in some way with the life, work and vision of the Order. Known as the Confraternity of the Christian Life (CCL), its Rule of Life set out a pattern of observance which was simple but comprehensive, explicitly intended for those who worked actively in secular environments.
The CCL proved so popular, that other similar fellowships were established. Among the earliest of these were the Priest Associates and the Seminarist Associates. These groups adopted a more stringent and demanding Rule of Life, modeled on a pattern thought appropriate for parish clergy and those preparing for ordained ministry.
In the 1970's, the priest and seminary Associates were combined and the fellowship was opened to men and women, lay as well as ordained. It became known as simply the Associates of Holy Cross.
The Rule
The following Rule of Life represents a response to the expressed desire of many CCL members and Associates for an updated Rule which allows for more flexibility and reflects more accurately the explicit Benedictine identity of the Order of the Holy Cross, with all its practical wisdom. It is intended to unite the two affiliate groups into a single whole, while allowing for the differences in emphasis and practice which have traditionally characterized each fellowship.
Principles
Holy Cross Associates intend to love and serve God through a relationship with the Order of the Holy Cross, adapting to their lives the Benedictine principles on which the monks base their common life.
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As Holy Cross Associates, we are committed to centering our lives in the basic values of Benedictine spirituality. Among these are:
Community
This is not only a primary Benedictine value, but also an essential Christian virtue and a basic human need. As Associates, we will work to build, nurture and heal community in all the environments we are a part of.
Since we are all part of Christ's body, our parish or local church is an important community for each of us, demanding our care and our love. It needs to be a living presence in our lives.
We will seek, if possible, to support each other's lives as Associates by meeting in small groups or forming correspondence groups.
Hospitality
We take seriously Benedict's instruction to welcome all guests and receive them as Christ. As Associates, we are called to consider all whom we meet as guests whom God has sent to us, remembering that it is particularly in the stranger that Christ is to be encountered.
Humility
Benedict reminds us continually that humility is foundational to Christian living. Humility is not self-denigration; it is honest appraisal. We have gifts and deficiencies, as does everyone else. We start from there, remembering that God loves each of us with a unique but equal love. It is that love which is the measure of our worth.
Balance
Our ordinary life is our spiritual life. We plan for a balance between prayer, work, study and recreation, keeping an inner balance even in the face of life's contradictions and complications.
Mindfulness
Since all life is holy, we don't want to let it pass by unnoticed. We give our attention as fully as we can to what we are doing at the moment and to what is going on around us. Being present here and now helps us to be mindful of the continuing presence of God.
Disciplines
Each Associate will work out a Rule of Life that fits the day-to-day world of home and workplace where we are called to live out our vocation. In constructing our rule we try to be specific about what we actually intend to do in each of the core disciplines that support the principles and values we try to live by.
Holy Eucharist
We participate in the celebration of the Holy Eucharist every Sunday and on principal feasts and holy days if it is available. Some may find that they also are fed by weekday celebrations.
Daily Office
For Benedict, the Daily Office is the work of God. It roots our life in the Psalms and Scripture and helps us live into the seasons of the church. The recitation of the Daily Office marks the holiness of our days and teaches us to live with right faith, certain hope and perfect charity.
Associates may use one or more of the Daily Offices from the Book of Common Prayer, the Monastic Diurnal, or some other collection for daily worship. Or they may pray shorter offices or adopt some alternative form of regular reading of the Psalms and Scripture. Consistency is key.
The Daily Office may provide the framework for personal prayer and self examination.
Personal Prayer
Finding time each day to spend alone with God in silence is central to our spiritual life. Our part is to be there, offering the time and listening with the ear of our heart for the Holy Spirit's leading. God may draw us to penitence, thanksgiving, intercession, meditation, adoration or other form of prayer, expressed either in words or in the inner silence of the heart. Lectio divina is the monastic tradition of slow and prayerful reading and pondering of Sacred Scripture or other holy texts to feed the heart as well as the mind, is especially to be recommended as an appropriate form of personal prayer.
Self examination
Regular self examination, confession and reconciliation are central to a loving relationship with God and our neighbors. This may include, but is not limited to, the Sacrament of Reconciliation.
Study
An inquiring and enlightened heart and mind are fundamental to the transformation of our lives and the widening our horizons. All study, whether explicitly religious or not, can enrich our prayer.
Stewardship
We are called as Christians to appreciate and to use the gifts God provides us, but at the same time to nurture a certain degree of inner freedom with regard to them. We are called to be in the world, but not of the world.
We are to be faithful stewards of our bodies, our hearts, our minds, our goods and our natural environment in gratitude to God and to God's glory.
Mission
Jesus modeled for us a life of compassion where the call to love our neighbors is to be understood as a call to love and serve others, especially the poor and the afflicted.
Spiritual Tools
The following are traditional aids offered to us so that "as we progress in this way of life and in faith, we [can] run on the path of God's commandments, our hearts overflowing with the inexpressible delight of love." RB, Prol., 49.
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Rule of Life
As indicated above, each Associate must develop a Rule of Life which incorporates and expresses the principles, values and disciplines outlined . This can best be done in consultation with a pastor, spiritual director or trusted friend, so that we might avoid, on the one hand, the danger of being unrealistic or overly scrupulous and, on the other hand, the danger of shrinking back from the challenge of Christian growth.
The Rule must be accepted by the Director of Associates. It may be revised as necessary. Any significant changes should be reported to the Director of Associates.
Current members of either the Confraternity of the Christian Life or of the Associates of Holy Cross may elect to continue under their present Rule indefinitely.
Annual report
Each Associate will report annually to the Director of Associates within one month of Holy Cross Day, September 14. The report will include the results of a review of the Rule of Life by the Associate in consultation with his or her pastor, spiritual director or trusted friend.
Annual retreat
Each Associate will set aside time for at least one annual retreat, preferably at one of the houses of the Order. If a formal retreat is not possible, the Associate may develop an alternative means of setting time aside, such as parish quiet days or individual days of reflection.
Support of the Order
In thanksgiving for the support the monks offer in open-hearted hospitality, in prayer, and in their examples of intentional living, each Associate will in turn support the Order with regular prayer and with financial and whatever other support they can.
Associates are remembered regularly in the prayers of the Order. They may wear the Associate's cross.
Membership is open to men and women of all Christian denominations after serving a probationary period of at least six months.
For further information on becoming an Associate, contact the Director of Associates:
Southwest and Southern California
Br. Robert Sevensky, OHC
Mount Calvary Retreat House and Monastery
P.O. Box 1296
Santa Barbara, CA 93102
Tel: 805-962-9855 ext. 23
Fax: 805-962-9855
Email: sevenskyr@aol.com
Northwest and Northern California Br. Thomas Schultz, OHC |
Canada Br. Christian Swayne, OHC
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East of the Mississippi
Br. Ronald Haynes, OHC
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Africa Br. Timothy Jolley, OHC |
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